GETTING MARRIED AT NEW LIFE
(For Engaged Couples)
REGISTRATION IS NOW CLOSED
Preparing for your Marriage
Through New Life’s pre-marital process we desire to give you the most valuable wedding present we can: a loving, lasting investment in your relationship as you prepare to make a lifelong commitment to one another. It is a very exciting time of thinking about and planning for the big wedding day but we also want you to begin preparing for your marriage which will last a lifetime.
Please don’t set a date until you talk with New Life’s Marriage-Preparation Coordinator, Geri Scazzero
Next Steps:
- Email marriage@newlifefellowship.org about your intention to marry.
- Attend the NLF Pre-marital Seminar
In addition, New Life may require further professional counseling and other resources for those couples who need more help.
We strongly recommend these resources as well for anyone getting married:
1. Financial Peace University – Christian Budgeting Course, hosted at New Life Fellowship twice per year. Finances are one of the top sources of stress for a couple’s relationship.
2. Rent DVD for:
Tips on Planning Your Wedding
Organizing Finances
Building Physical Togetherness
Creating an Equal Partnership
(These can all be viewed in one sitting)
3. Read Sex 101 (Penner) a few weeks before the wedding.
Am I Ready?
We advise that couples date for at least one year before getting engaged. It takes time to really get to know one another.
- Do I want to share the rest of my life with this person?
- Does our love give me energy and strength or does it drain me?
- Do I respect this person?
- Do I accept this person as they are now (bad habits and all)?
- Are we able to admit our mistakes, apologize, and forgive each other?
- Do we have interests in common as a foundation for friendship?
- Have we weathered all the seasons and a variety of situations together?
If you are unable to answer yes to the questions above, we suggest you discuss your feelings with someone other than your potential spouse.
Re-Marriage After a Divorce
Please request the New Life Fellowship position paper concerning marriage, divorce, and re-marriage. We will consider every couple presenting themselves for marriage on an individual basis. However, we recommend a two-year wait from the time of divorce before becoming engaged to another person.
